The image of men in media

I recently read a wonderful blog post, Women are real women, by Jennie Saia, in regards to the portrayal of women in media, and I urge you to read it if you have any interest in the matter. She makes a fine point that even though some advertisers have attempted to redefine real beauty, their attempt falls short, that it isn’t a competition or a comparison. Saia goes on to say the goal should be the representation of all figures, and puts it eloquently, “…we can all be celebrated as incarnations of our endlessly diverse human amazingness.”

As a male, I found myself on the other side of the coin with the same thoughts on the image of men in media. Dropping a comment on her post, she prompted the idea of me writing on the subject. Now, this isn’t an area I often dabble, but I believe pushing ourselves beyond our comfort zone is the best way to grow.

I’m the first to admit, this topic isn’t as debated as women, and I would surmise it has something to do with the idea men aren’t supposed to speak their mind about emotions (another foolish idea perpetuated by society) but also that men, in general, aren’t targeted as fervently. Nonetheless, I think men are just as affected by images of masculinity as woman are by images of supposed feminity.

So, what should the ideal man look like? I googled “Male Model” and the top 100 images all displayed the same thing: Overally muscled males, absent of body hair, and devoid of any fat. The ones who were not, sides-o-beef, resembled boys to the point of androgyny. What am I, or any youth, supposed to glean from this? That to qualify as a man, I must exude superior physicallity and remove all unsightly hair; but wait, must I also resemble a boy?

Don’t get me wrong, I applaud the male models, athletes, and celebrities who can condition their bodies to such peaks. Yet, being part of their job, they can spend more time on building their physique. What of the average man? Yes, he too can reach the same goals if the interest is there. It isn’t that simple, though. I believe as humans, we are three part beings: body, mind, soul. Proper health comes from balancing all three, but most people will generally be dominant in one part. If you are a person centered in the mind or the soul, you may find it difficult to challenge the body, as I do. This of course applies to women, and just as they come in all shapes, sizes, or have the genetic predispostion to be thin, surprise, so do men.

I spent my teenage years in a narrow minded city where this was the ideal image of what a man should resemble. Even as a young lad, I had more weight in my legs than my torso and arms. As a young man, and today, I am a rounder fellow. I don’t consider myself overly fat, but throughout my days in high school, I always felt ostracized, different, and less of a man. This continued into my twenties. In gym, in movies, in magazines, and all other conceived forms of media, all I saw were the superbly muscled males our society has come to label as “Sexy.”

This affected me.

It took me a long time to become comfortable with myself and ignore media or society. But it’s something I should never have worried about, nor should any other man, or any youth finding his role within the world.

I am a man. I honor the body I reside. I find joy in my existence.

As Saia pointed out, we are people, we are beautiful, and we are amazing. All humans share the divine spark of life, and we should all be held in esteem for our splendor, our differences, and our uniqueness.

I’m not sure if this makes as much sense as I had intended, if it serves a purpose, but it is part of my truth. In closing, I believe that we can only blame the media and society for so long. Eventually, these notions become self fulfilling prophecies, and the only way they will ever change is if all people gather to evolve in the way we see ourselves as beautiful humans.

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Maintaining originality through countless creations.

Man has existed for thousands of years, and I’d like to think, sitting around those first camp fires, the form of the story was created; we’ve been enthralled with entertainment ever since then. Everyone loves a good tale, an adventure, an epic to stir the blood and the senses. In my favorite fantasy novel, a young thief could be stopped mid-burgle with the simple words of “In the beginning” or any variation thereof.

The purpose of art is to create, to evoke emotion, no matter how small, and after endless years of creation: stories, paintings, and music, how does one find originality? After all, there are only so many words, so many pigments, and so many notes to draw from. There is only one natural source of light to capture a photograph.

In my assesment, there is no story beyond the themes of Love, Good Vs. Evil, Death, and God. Any story you have ever read, will read, or have thought of has already been done. It fits snugly into one of these ideals–maybe even all four. So, what is the point of creation? If your idea has already bore fruit by someone of the past, what will you yield but ash, a cheap replica? Could you imagine if someone told Mozart his work was derivative and cliche, to find another profession, and what if he actually listened? I tremble at the notion.

But, the answer is simple: originality lies within the soul of the creator. Yes, no idea is new, but the way the artist channels it and filters it through their very being is what gives rise to something new. Something fresh. It is the unique perspective of the individual that sees the mundane and transforms it, molds it, and shapes it into the divine gift of art.

While these four constructs may exist singularly, they, like all things, weave through the others.

* Love: This can be the love of the self, the desire for survival, which resonates with death, or it can be selfless love, the savior or hero defending the world. In its obvious form, the tale of two souls romantically intertwined.

* Good Vs. Evil: In its truest form, this is the literal power struggle between the forces of light and the minions of dark. But it is also the conflict of the self, one’s desires, the need for revenge, or even balance in opposites.

* Death: Any story where a character attempts to prevent the shedding of the mortal coil, man versus nature, man versus man, man versus self, etc, but death also represents fear. Dying is crossing the threshold of the unknown, and man has always feared what it does not understand.

* God: Ah, the questions of the divine. All the tales of the mind, reason, spirit, and those things that cannot be explained–this is the realm of god, or gods, depending on your arena.

Most stories can fit into these four themes, and I do not question there may be sub-categories. I recently finished reading my first Star Wars novel, Darth Plagueis. Overall, a story of good vs. evil in its ultimate form, but it also spoke of death and minor touches of god. Ancient topics, mixed in an already established space-drama, but it held its own. The story had round characters, visceral worlds, and real desires giving birth to unfolding events that shaped the galaxy into the epic tale many of us have seen on celluloid. Within tried and true elements, an original story lurked.

I have always maintained, one must trust their instinct. The intuition of their soul. It is wise to listen to the opinions of others, but one must find the balance of advice and knowledge. Just remember, when someone tells you your idea has been done, that it’s cliche: do not abandon your story. There are no new ideas. No new colors. No new notes. The sun shining in the sky is the same as it was yesterday. But what is different is–you. Your soul is a vessel of creation and your eyes see things others do not. So, harness your unique flavors, and culminate them into a tasty dish!

Appreciation for reading. I’m off now to see Star Trek Into Darkness. I shiver with antici…pation.

Smiles beyond measure!

Peeling back the layers of sleep-hazed lids, I roused myself from a perfect harmony of pillows and sheets this morning, with great reluctance. Like a grizzly awakening two days early from hibernation, I had no desire to face the day, and was ready to chomp someone’s hand if they got too close. With my morning ritual, I turned the squelching alarm off on my phone and checked my emails: and I am now all smiles.

For the wonderful Sian Mann nominated me for the Versatile Blogger Award. Seriously, my day transformed instantly. I felt like Greg Kinnear from You’ve Got Mail when someone recognizes him as a writer. I stand in humility and awe, well, I’m sitting now, but still…

Anywho, on to the seven interesting tidbits about myself: I give you a fraction of what encompasses me.

1. I like both Star Wars and Star Trek with equal measure. Strange, I know.

2. I live life with no expectations. See things for what they are, not what you desire them to be.

3. I purchased my very first car when I was 29. A 1971 Volkswagen Type III Fastback.

4. I have no concept of time. This may be in part to having no expectations, but I choose to live life in the present without dwelling on the past or future.

5. I’m an INFJ Introvert, which is the rarest personality type, compromising about 1% of the population, and this leads to one of my more enduring qualities.

6. I’m a superb listener. I’ve always been that person who people spill their problems to; I’m able to see into the heart of the matter, probably my intuition, and provide answers (if only I could follow my own advice >_<).

7. Finally, I love without condition. No judgments, no limits, and no requirements. Whoever you are, whatever you are, wherever you may live, I love you.

Now, I’m supposed to nominate 15 fellow bloggers who show variance in their writings. Sadly, my list comes up short, for not being on WordPress, and still learning the ways of blogging. But, here are the blogs I enjoy and wish to share in the goodness of nomination:

The accidental cootchie mama

Tales of the Marvelous

Steve R. Yeager

Asleep at the Pen

Rien Reigns

Understanding Weakness

Stumbling Through Life

Jilted Genius

Knite Writes

R. A. Gates

Shannon A Thompson

Bottleworder

To those nominated, if you wish to partake, click on the link below for rules, simply nominate 15 bloggers who show variety in their writings, and share seven facts about yourself. It is not required. Have fun, and again, my supreme gratitude to Sian Mann for thinking of me!

Versatile Blogger Rules

Elia Rose: a scifi excerpt

This is a work in progress, set in my scifi dystopia. If you’ve read the Dalmer story posted, it’s the same world, but takes place about fifty years prior, directly after the start of a new world war. A warning, my scifi is dark:

Colonel Straus stepped from the confines of his transport into the brumal outdoors of some filth ridden village in what used to be eastern Europe. Within two steps, mire caked his freshly shined boots. This would infuriate him to no end under normal circumstances, but looking at the letter in his hand for the hundredth time in an hour, his heart sunk into the bottom of his stomach. The desire to retch set his hands to shaking.

His commander approached.

Lifting his hand for silence, Straus read the communiqué once again. He closed his eyes. Lifting his head skyward, the cold air almost burned his nasal passage, and he fought the wetness at the back of his lids. Pulling a lighter from his pocket, he set flame to the paper. As soon as it ignited, he cast it to the air, drifting like a dead leaf, tiny embers danced as sprites of the night, and before reaching the ground, his mind returned to the business at hand.

Straus eyed his commander. “How many?”

“Forty-seven in the initial advance. Once we took the village, twelve more in the round up.” The commander turned to the burning town and a row of men, women, and children on their knees. “Only fifty-three remain.”

Hundreds of troops surrounded the ones kneeling in prayer.

“Very well.” Straus strolled towards an elder man, the village leader. “In the name of Chancellor Valker, I hereby cleanse this village.”

Pleading eyes looked to him for mercy, tears streaked withered skin, and they were met with emptiness.

Straus removed his gun from its holster and pressed the barrel to the old man’s temple. “You are now clean.” In an instant, a wash of blood, brains, and fragments of skull decorated the black mud and pools of water. He turned back to his commander. “Cleanse them all.”

With one signal, the soldiers raised their weapons and fired. Screams rang louder than recoiling rifles and exploding barrels. Bodies fell. The land soaked with flowing blood, tears, death, and finally silence.

“Commander. I will return to headquarters. Prepare the troops for the next incursion.”

“I will see it done.” With a stiff salute and click of boots, the commander saw to his superior’s orders.

Returning to the warmth of his transport, Straus ordered his driver to remove him from the spectacle as his aid handed him a glass of whisky. Swirling the glass, he inhaled the aroma. A flow of spice opened his sinuses, and a lingering scent of cherry elicited a slight smile. One small sip burned his throat returning heat to his insides.

The late model sedan pulled away from the massacre, and returned to open road following a small river north. Night swept across the sky as the sun descended below stark mountains. Straus removed his visor-hat and leaned back. The world had changed, and yet, it remained the same. His purpose, once clear, obscured in the lines of black ink burned into his memory.

They were gone.

He pushed back another swallow of whisky. With a small cough, he sat upright. Heat from his loss, as well as the gold label alcohol, gathered around his tight collar, and his throat constricted. He whipped his hand to a side console, the window slid down, and cool air rushed into the stagnant compartment. His chest expanded with a deep intake of breath.

“Colonel. Are you well?”

Straus peered out his window, unconcerned with his aid’s question. As he was about to hand his empty glass for a refill, a flickering of light caught his eye. “Karl, stop the car!”

The driver came to a slow halt and looked into his mirror at the Colonel.

“Turn around. A road on the left bank.” The sedan rolled into action. The crunch of gravel invaded the silent night, and the stray light he had seen no longer shined. He could only surmise if someone was hiding—the road itself alerted them to unwanted guests.

Headlights lit a small hovel of poor construction. Windows, devoid of glass, were boarded shut, and a broken door tilted on rusted hinges. The car came to a stop.

Careening his neck, he listened for any tell-tale sign of life. None answered. “Come with me.” He motioned to his aid, who’s wide eyes bespoke surprise. He rarely entered the field. “You will follow.” Exciting the sedan, he shined a light ahead. Frigid air embraced his cheeks, and his breath billowed forth in twisting curls of mist. Un-holstering his sidearm, he approached the seemingly abandoned dwelling.

Pushing on the door with his boot, it creaked loudly and scraped concrete floor. His ears twitched at the high pitch screech. He shined light into every corner. Dry leaves lay scattered about the dusty floor. No footprints broke the layer of filth, and empty cupboards revealed no storage of sundries.

“Colonel. There is nothing here.”

He had almost forgot about the presence of his aid, but with his insufferable voice, he wished he had. “We will conduct a thorough search of these premises, and we will carry ourselves like loyal soldiers of the order.”

A small kitchen adjoined the left side of the living space. Again, no signs of life. Stepping to the right, a single door blocked their path. He pushed the door open, shined his light into the room, but did not enter. “Tell me something, do you notice anything odd?”

After a moment of silence, he turned to his aid. The man squinted his eyes in attempt to glean any insight to the room.

Straus kicked the door, and it swung on oiled hinges. “This door is in too fine a condition. Someone is here.” A small nightstand stood near a window facing the road. No lamp was present, and the table had no visible signs of disruption. He placed his hand on the smooth finish. A slight smile twisted his lip. Heat! The table still held warmth.

He examined the floor in closer detail. Whomever was here covered their tracks well. Turning in a slow circle, the light revealed the slightest of details, and to his trained eye, he saw nothing strange. Only a half-open closet remained. He slid the door open. An ordinary closet greeted him, and as he stepped away, he paused and looked back. “The best place to hide things is in plain sight.”

His aid stepped close. “I see nothing.”

“The bottom right corner.” A slight tinge of dirt revealed the tiniest of cracks. He tapped the false section with the toe of his boot. A hollow sound answered. “In the name of the Chancellor, come out!”

Silence met his demand. After waiting a few moments, he kicked the panel open revealing a small crawl space. “I repeat! In the name of Chancellor Valker, surrender yourself.”

A slight scuffling sounded from the dark hollow. Straus stepped back, brushing into his aid. He raised his gun and waited.

Movement in the shadows caught his eye. A tiny head covered in long, greasy black hair appeared, and a girl came to her feet holding a ragged teddy bear. She couldn’t have been more than eight. She might have had beautiful pale skin if it were not smeared in grime. The girl trembled, looking at him with large, blue eyes, clear and vibrant, and his heart fluttered; his throat swelled, and he thought he might choke from the lapse in air.

He lowered his arm, the barrel of his gun poking his leg, but he kept his light shining on the girl. She pulled her bear closer, tears filled her eyes.

“Colonel. She is one of the unclean. The Chancellor has commanded their cleansing.”

“Yes, you are,” he stammered and cleared his voice, “you are correct.” He pointed his pistol at the girl. “Close your eyes, darling.”

She continued to stare up at him. Her eyes pleaded. They begged. But he did not waver.

“Close your eyes.”

The girl obeyed.

With a loud bang, the girl jolted, dropping her bear, and her scrunched eyes tightened further. “Keep them closed.” Straus turned to his aid, who laid on the ground clutching his chest. Dark blood spilled across his hands. A sick gurgling escaped his mouth, and he spit up the red fluid of life. He looked at Straus in confused horror before sagging to the ground, limp and breathless. His open eyes still showed his final moment of disparity.

Straus holstered his gun, bent down to pick-up the girl’s bear, and then he took her hand and led her from the vagrant dwelling.

the Ultimate Hero

Greetings, readers. I wish upon you all a pleasant day. In days past, I have spoke of the anti-hero (Give me an Anti-hero!) which is my particular favorite brand of protagonist. Everyone loves a villain. They have more fun, breaking rules and causing mayhem. But it saddens me the hero is on the decline. The discussion of these three archetypes has been a favorite topic amongst my fellow writers, and the hero is less observed with almost all.

Again, this is sad. A splinter in my mind as Morpheus would say, I can’t stop pondering why? For the most part, heroes stay the same throughout the years. They must fall in a certain line of etiquette, and I think this is the root of the dilemma. Villains may do anything, and anti-heroes for the most part may do so as well but will always swing around to a better moral center. If a hero has a list of attributes they can never stray from, where is the potential for growth and interest?

But shouldn’t we enjoy the reliability of a hero? That they will never fail us? Always be there? I think so, and I think we, as a society, should call for more heroes. Look at who’s on top, Iron Man. Tony Stark, while awesome and played so well by Robert Downey Jr, is not a hero. He’s an anti-hero.

Now, I desire the ultimate hero!

Then, it came to me while watching Ridley Scott’s Prometheus (I loved it >_<). The heroes I have recently enjoyed are the ones who provide the highest of selfless acts: the sacrifice.

Warning, I'm about to give Spoilers… run for your life! First, there is Dr. Holloway, being infected with the alien virus and is mutating into god knows what, and instead of creating potential harm to his fellows and lover, he takes a ball of flame. Granted, he weighed the options and it was a less painful choice, but still, pretty amazing. Second, and more to the point, the ship captain Janek, played by Idris Elba, whom I've really been digging lately, has a chance to leave, to survive, but he and his two co-pilots ram their ship up the Engineer’s cram-hole. They just saved all of Earth. That tugs at my heart string.

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Stepping back, Star Trek the Wrath of Khan. Spock makes the ultimate sacrifice. Walking into a chamber of radioactive doom, he fixes the Enterprise, warp speed Mr. Sulu! Khan gets his, looking at warp trails, and dying alone. Now, this movie had its fill of cheesy acting (Two Kirks and a Khan anyone?), but when Kirk sees his friend, dying, it drives home to the soul. If you’ve seen this and felt nothing, you’re probably Vulcan. After all, the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few.

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Even Data ended his quest for humanity with self sacrifice, which is well rounded for his path. (I loved Nemesis, don’t care what anyone says). Data was always my favorite, until Garak and Weyoun, but I always felt he was more human than he gave himself credit for, which is a different discussion. When he stepped onto the platform, looked at Picard, says Goodbye, beamed him out, and fired his phaser: Oh, the tears, the humanity!

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I admit, I am easily moved by noble acts, selfless acts, and the amazing things humans can do for one another. Is that not what we are here for? And this last sacrifice is a perfect example of how affected I get.

Ghost in the Shell, 2nd Gig. This is a Japanese cartoon. A cartoon! And I get all squishy in the final episode. A group of Tachikomo’s, think tanks, grow a ghost (soul), and they direct their satellite, where their consciousness is stored, into the path of a nuclear missile. They know full well they will lose all they’ve gained, and they do it anyway, singing a song about life: and it just ends me every time.

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In closing, I’m not saying a protagonist must give their life in order to qualify as an interesting hero. All I’m saying, if anything, is the sacrifice of the hero for the well-being of all others is a powerful expression of love. If you think back a few millennia, in real life, I bet you can think of someone who did this.

Before the Shroud

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A colleague of mine published a serialization on Amazon of his fantasy world: Before the Shroud.

(Warning: Spoilers)

The story is a quick read, which I finished in a single sitting–a testament to a well written, intriguing story. The reader starts with Aldester, a cut-purse, who only wants to earn enough money to help his mother: food, new clothes, and maybe even a garden. When he scores a good day’s haul, he eagerly buys a fresh pie to surprise his mum, but things quickly turn sour.

I quickly connected with Aldester. He’s a solid character built around tense situations and pivotal choices. The story held nice pace and progression, and at the right moments, shifted to another character, Thelron, a Ronin. And I did get angry when the story switched, but this is good, as the author should want us to care enough about a character to stay on their path.

While escorting a merchant and his daughter, Thelron finds his steel coated in blood, and the day seems right for him until the road takes an unexpected detour. Thelron is a more mysterious character. He’s honorable, but not enough of his past has been revealed to catch a full glimpse of his desires. Before we can find out more, the story again switches to Aldester.

I shall not go into more detail, but I must say this: loved the ending!

In short, the author is Scott Richards, and for only $0.99, I urge you to download his story at Amazon if you like fantasy themed stories, with some witty writing, engaging characters, and of course, solid prose.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00CNZCR8I/ref=cm_cr_ryp_prd_img_sol_0

You may also check out his blog as follows:

http://www.theshroudbetween.com/

I’d eat tree-bark if I thought it would help…

All my life I have suffered from severe allergies. And I do not exaggerate when I say: Severe. I’m talking bed-ridden, face, a ball of dry, red, itchy madness, along with headaches, body aches, and crushed lungs. I used to take a nasal steroid that worked well, but it was discontinued. Back to square one. I tried every over the counter drug known to man and even other prescriptions. Nothing ever worked. I dislike drugs to begin with, even aspirin, as I believe the medical industry is designed to make money–not cure people. There is no money in solving the problem. And face it, why do I want to put foreign chemicals in my body (as I drink my mountain dew, I am aware of my hypocrisy) but I digress…

So, while working one day, a customer saw my state, and started listing drugs to which I replied, tried it, done it, snorted it, mainlined it, etc. Then she says, “Ever try local grown honey?” Lady, I’d eat tree-bark if I thought it would help.

Venturing to my local health store, I purchased a giant jar of honey for $7 that will last until the end of ages. I no longer suffer from allergies. At first, it took a couple of weeks to work, but now, I take a spoonful every morning with my cereal for a week, and I’m good for an entire year.

The other day, while strolling our beautiful city River Walk, for at least a minute, strong gusts of wind nearly lifted me off the ground. My face got pounded with all sorts of lovely pollens, and I exploded into my formal ball of madness. Time to redose! End of week, I’m in like Flint.

Now, there is no clinical proof that eating local honey works. But I think of it this way, over the last few years I’ve built an immunity to iocaine powder, and I will live if you put a poisoned cup in front of me. Seriously though, that is what is going on. You are building the bodies tolerance for the local pollens to the point it no longer effects you. And it does have to be local. Eating honey from another state or country won’t cut it.

Some people may say, it is a complete placebo reaction. Well, maybe so. But you know what I say? I don’t have allergies regardless, and my $7 jar of honey taste good with breakfast, no drugs in my body that probably cost into the hundreds yearly. So, have some local honey and tip your bees.

For further reading:

http://health.howstuffworks.com/diseases-conditions/allergies/allergy-treatments/local-honey-for-allergies.htm